It's a fact that you cant be friends with everyone you meet---if you could, then it wouldn't make them special, which if you are lucky enough to have some, then you need to recognise that and make the most of it-- without forgetting to let them know how much it means to you.
It's difficult right, if everyone was a friend then you wouldn't have time to see all let alone spend quality time with them, so it is important that everyone knows that while you my not be able to spend as much time as you would like with them , that they know that they are in your thoughts often.
Real friends understand that just because you don't see them from one month to the next --in some cases one year to the next -- that when you do get together , it always very quickly feels like you only saw them last week.
The thing about friendship is that it should be treasured-- I mean - I have no friends from my youth from school or generally growing up, just kind of drifted away -- started seeing that there was this huge great world of opportunity out there and that most of it would have to be on my own, until I met that really special person. Where-as there are others who manage to cling on to the friendships that they grew up with at school; and thereafter and who , when they look around, they are all still there for each other many many years later------ like this lot-----
This scary bunch have been mates for so long, have been through so much both together and on their own and yet can still rely on each other when they need to -- nice one ladies.
I am not sure if everyone knows , there is a "Friendship Day"--- international friendship day is apparently 30th July--others say the 8th April -- but for me if like me your able to say that you have friends-- then I celebrate that fact EVERY DAY
So knowing that you cant be friends with everyone, what stops people from just being NICE to people we meet. I mean i'm not saying that you have to be fawning all over someone you have only just met, no matter how that occurs but nothing stops some genuine courtesy, even the smallest of things.
Now , I appreciate that others who might read this blog might start comparing this to words of an OLD person and totally unrealistic , and life's not like that in reality --- all that stuff, but you know what-- most of the time being nice costs absolutely nothing , just a change sometimes in attitude and can leave you feeling ok about yourself.
And if we ever want people to stop being so aggressive and just damn right nasty--never being nice to anyone-- then we should start weaning people of this kind of crap----
And these are just a small batch of what has become the staple diet of much of the British public. This modern time with instant access and more media devices than you can shake a stick at-- and add to that the fact that the public have been conned into believing that they have some divine right to appear on TV.
And not only that but they are encouraged to be as obnoxious as possible -- Big Brother, Geordie Shore and the likes of the only way is timbuc -- fricking - two.
Why is it so bad to be nice -- and what is wrong with being polite--it costs NOTHING.
None of this costs a thing but can make a difference to other people even the smallest gesture, can make people smile, and can make peoples problems seem less than before.
I like the statements like " Being Nice is doing the right thing when no-one is looking"--- I just think that not going looking for praise or recognition is what sets real nice people apart from nice people with an agenda and need. The clever person will also know that there is a time when you need to make sure that being nice does not get in the way of doing what is right.
So for me , it is trying to do the right thing, which does not mean that you have to be nasty-- doing the right thing is very hard sometimes but the most satisfying. it's too easy to look at the negatives but positive actions and thinking has to be far more satisfying , even if the only one feeling rewarded is me.
So being around an age that guarantees that I have no idea how long in this world I have to go-- but in that time I will continue to try to help people wherever I can in whatever way -- no matter how small or insignificant -----
If I can make someone happy it will make me feel I am achieving something---
But in the meantime I am gonna count my blessings that we have such a nice bunch of FRIENDs and treasure the moments that we can grab with them and the times they are in our thoughts.
Lynda and I are blessed with having some amazing friends and are lucky enough to see the majority on a reasonably regular basis -- there are some that are a little far away but join us in our hearts and minds with great piccies on FB and messages now and then.
So make this your mantra--
And if you cannot manage to be in as lucky a position as we are with such folk you can call friend -- then find just one, that you can make your bestest friend ever like mine, and if everyone else who count were to disappear, then I would still have this person who has come to be the best friend of mine in this world.
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